Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Nothing Like a good Dose of Conviction!

I sat down to read a few magazines the other day, just to relax, and ended up getting a big slap upside the back of the head. After I started reading an article (that caught my eye) in the March issue of Baby Talk magazine, I started feeling extremely uncomfortable. (Go ahead and read it here.) Once I finished the article, I realized that maybe I was what this article talked about, that I was one of those Mom's. I couldn't believe it, but you know that the first sign is denial.

I truly believe God placed this article for me to read, and I definitely got my wake up call! So if you don't see me online quite as often as before then you will understand. Just thought I would share. God can use a variety of resources to minister and speak to us.

Peter and the other apostles replied: "We must obey God rather than men! Acts 5:29 NIV

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Guest Post by Julie-A Proverbs 31 Woman

Thanks be to God for allowing me to "meet" Christian women online! This post is written by Julie, who is a fellow pastor's wife, a homeschool Mom to 4, and a blogger! Please make sure you visit her blogs, here, and here, as they are a blessing!

A Proverbs 31 Woman

As I prayed about what to share with you today, I felt the Lord’s leading in what have we, as women lost in today’s society? What is needful for us to hear that we won’t hear from the television, the radio, etc… And it all comes down to a few questions… and I ask them of you as the Lord asked them of me:

What kind of example are you setting with your life?
For your daughter
For your granddaughter?
For your co-workers?
For your unsaved family, for we all, I’m sure have these?

And then, this leads to my other question….
What instructions or guidance do God and His Word give us in the example that we are to be setting?

This brings me to the text today, a familiar one, I’m sure to most of us...Proverbs 31:

Proverbs 31:10-30 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life...She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple… Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

What is meant by the word virtuous?
Webster defines it as: having, or characterized by moral, virtue; righteous; chaste.
a moral excellence, right action and thinking; goodness and morality
The dictionary also gives a definition for theological virtue as: the three virtues (faith, hope, and love) that have God as their immediate object. I like’s good!

In looking at this section in Proverbs, I see 5 qualities or attributes of a virtuous woman and I’d like to share them with you quickly:

1. She is trustworthy.
Are you honest? Can people trust you?

1Thessalonians 4:11-12 And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing.
1Peter 2:12 Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles:
Conversation here is translated your conduct or way of life.

Are your dealings honest? Do you treat people fairly and justly?
Do you pay for what you receive?

She is benevolent.
Are you generous with what the Lord has blessed you? Or are you stingy?
You know, I have a reputation of being called the coupon queen… I use a lot of them…and my family laughs that if something’s not on sale and I don’t have a coupon for it, we don’t get it! Kevin says one of my favorite words is “free”!
But that’s frugality and a whole different matter. That’s being a wise steward, I believe
But benevolent means willing to give to those in need.
Jesus said, in Matthew 25, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
2Corinthians 9:7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.
1John 3:17-18 But whoever has this world's goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.
It’s easy to say that you love others, but do your action prove it?

3. She takes care of her household.
This is a big one that I feel we have lost. With all the women’s lib and women’s rights movements.
Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Now, I’m not going to stand here and say that it is wrong for a woman to work or have a career. But I will say, that a virtuous woman knows her responsibilities at home as well to her husband and children.
I am blessed to be a stay at home mom. It’s not always easy (back to coupons). I also am blessed to be able to home school my children. My daughter is finishing her senior year in high school, that’s hard to believe. And she has been home schooled her entire life. It’s not always been easy either (right now I’ve got an 12th , 10th, 7th, and 1st grader). But it’s a blessing. I know my kids. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or you work, you better know your kids. What are they doing? Who are their friends? Who’s influencing them?
Do you have a relationship with your kids? Are you setting that example before them? Do they know that they are important?
I have 3 boys and they like to play ball…baseball, football. So I’ll pitch the ball to them or send them out for the long pass.
Laurie and I like to scrapbook. We do it together. It’s fun.
Your kids watch you. They learn from you. Be that godly example before them, because they aren’t going to get it from others!

4. She speaks well.
Colossians 4:6 Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.
Speak the truth first of all.
The words that we speak- they are powerful. They can build some one up and encourage them or they can tear someone down.
Also, our tone of voice is important: I’m sorry vs. I’m sorry. Does your tone say that you mean it?
Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
So choose words wisely

Not only is a virtuous woman trustworthy, benevolent, one who takes care of her household, and speaks well, but lastly…

5. She fears the Lord.
This here, is the most important and yet it is the last.

What does this mean? It’s not a trembling fear we’re talking about.
To know God so as to walk aright before him. Holy reverence of God leads us to praise him, worship Him for who He is.

Proverbs defines it in 8:13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.

Do your children see you daily reading the Word & praying?
Is being in church a priority for you?
Are you serving in the Body of Christ?
Do you have a burden for the lost?
Are you setting the example here for others?

I know who I was before Christ. I know what the Lord did for me. And I don’t ever want to go back, but I want to serve Him all the days of my life.

Psalm 111:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.
Hebrews 12:28 Wherefore we receiving a kingdom which cannot be moved, let us have grace, whereby we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear:

A Virtuous woman will love God, love His Word, love that which is good and right.
Will set that godly example that we so desperately need today.
Be the woman that God wants you to be and live for Him.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Unconfessed Sins? Surrender in Prayer...

As a pastor's wife, many look to me for advice, or even as a spiritual mentor of sorts. I kind of have a difficult time being in this role model position, I feel like I am the one who should be looking for help, so it is difficult for me to feel like I can be there for others.

Many times in our lives we can't be a spiritual pillar, or even earnestly pray, and spend time with our Lord because we have allowed ourselves to be separated by sinful behaviors. Even in Psalm 66:18 I recently read about hidden sin, and how it separates us from God. I don't want anything to keep me from serving and praising my Lord. Whether that be an attitude, or thoughts that I shouldn't have, I want to surrender those sinful behaviors to God, so that I can have a closer fellowship with Him.

Many times it is important to have an accountability to others, whether it be your husband, your friends, or whomever else you trust as a brother or sister in Christ. This accountability partner can keep you in check in regards to your prayer time and scripture time. I am reminded by my hubby at various times about my lack of Bible/prayer time, when I get in a "mood". Of course there are times that I am reminding him as well.

I believe that the key to a strong prayer life with the Lord is to start with our confession of sin.

If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened; but God has surely listened and heard my voice in prayer. Psalm 66:18-19

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Say Hey, It's a Good Day!

I have had a difficult day today, not unlike many for me. I have been struggling lately, in my spiritual life. I am feeling down and drained, but I won't give it up to God. Why Not, when I know that is all I need to do? Today I was thinking of a song I know called Say Hey, and the words are really true.

Say Hey, it's a good day, even if things aren't goin' my way, Jesus is Lord, and I am saved so, say hey, it's a good day!

It doesn't matter how tough life can be, or how cruddy we feel, if we are saved through Jesus Christ, then, hey it's a good day.

But now, oh Lord you are our Father, we are the clay, and You are the Potter, and all we are the work of Your hand. Isaiah 64:8

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Ever Feel Lousy About Yourself?

My hubby sent this to me in an email and I wanted to share it with you:

You need to know how God feels about you:
You are "majestic" in His eyes (Literally: excellent, glorious, mighty, worthy)
You are the source of all His delight (Psalm 16:3)
Zephaniah 3:17 puts it this way:
The Lord is with you
He takes great delight in you
He will quiet you with His love
He rejoices over you with singing
Of you He says, "I have loved you with an everlasting love." (Jeremiah 31:3) He has always loved you! Even before you were conceived!
Yes, I know you are a sinner. That is not new information. But in His eyes your problem with sin has nothing to do with your intrinsic worth. If your daughter contracts cancer, her worth is not diminished in your eyes, is it?
As the kid said, "God didn't make any junk." The truth is that "you are fearfully and wonderfully made… skillfully wrought": God's marvelous creation! (Psalm 139:14, 15) In fact, "while we were sinners" — scuzzball rebels — Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8) Before we cleaned up our act, He crawled up on that cross for us. Is there a more forceful demonstration of unconditional love?… Of your worth to Him?
So, this week as you enter the shark infested waters of the marketplace, keep in mind the fact that you are A CHILD OF THE KING. A PERSON OF INFINITE, ETERNAL WORTH.
—Facts of the Matter

Thanks to Facts of the Matter!

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Envy, Jealousy, Coveting

I have really had a hard time lately dealing with the ugly sin of coveting, (Well, also jealousy too.) Mainly I feel that I just don't have enough materialistically. I see things that other people have and I want the same. I don't even stop to think of ALL the wonderful things God provides for me. I don't think about all the rich blessings I receive through my church, children, husband, and my life in general. I just focus on what I don't have, (i.e. an iPhone, flip camera, newer vehicle, more clothes, shoes, nicer home, etc and the list could go on and on and on...) The longer I harbor these feelings, and thoughts, I become angry, and not just angry, but bitter and then these feelings just fester.

This is never a good thing for a Christian to do, it makes for an ugly attitude, and an unbecoming spirit. A lot of people probably think "Well, she's a pastor's wife, she should be this perfect, upstanding Christian woman!" But you know what, I am human, and I sin, and have fleshly desires just like anyone else, (but that doesn't make it right or okay.)

While reading something just today, I again had that painful, anger in my heart of envy. It stabs, and it can eat you up inside. God showed me right then and there, that I have to give this all up, and repent, (unless I want to continue on my miserable path.) So I am praying to be not only satisfied with what God has given to me and my family, but to be happy about it all. I also pray that I will stop each time I feel those old feelings creep back up, and speak God's truth, not only to myself, but to others. God's word tells us in James this:

Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such wisdom does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every practice. James 3:13-16 NIV

Monday, January 5, 2009

Pastor's Conference

For those of you who do not know, my hubby is also my pastor. Our church (Marsden Baptist Church) is a small, country church in which we have been serving in for almost 2 years. We have been blessed to be a part of this church, and have learned a lot and will continue to while we are here.

I came across a post by another preacher's wife, that was offering a giveaway to a pastors conference next month. I really think my hubby would love this and could use a refreshing event like this in his life right now. If you would like more information about this conference, just click on the button to the right and you will be taken to the site.

Also if you know of a pastor who would like to attend, then you can also enter them in the contest here, as well.

Mommy Mondays

I will be starting a daily devotion blog right here. I will hopefully post daily, except weekends might be Saturday/Sunday combined. I feel that there is a great need for women of today who are busy, and wear multiple hats to slow down and spend much needed time absorbing God's word. I plan on posting short devotions, with a corresponding bible reading. I hope to include occasional giveaways of some excellent books by some awesome Christian women, so be on the lookout for that as well. If you have somehow stumbled upon this blog, and you have any ideas and/or suggestions please either email me, or leave me a comment. I pray that God can use me to minister to others by following His will for my life! Thanks and God Bless.